Truthfully saying that you are sorry and asking for forgiveness is a difficult task. Pride gets in the way most of the time. It becomes the stumbling block. When you get angry with someone and a confrontation led to the digging up of past problems and an exchange of harsh words, both of you will feel hurt. You may end up not talking to each other for a while. Sometimes you really do not intend to say hurtful words, nor do you want to even utter those words because they can be meaningless but they just come out in the heat of the argument.
Asking for forgiveness releases a person from the agony of being hurt and burdened. It does not really matter who started the argument. The main thing is that someone should be brave enough to make the first approach and ask for forgiveness.
- You have to know the cause of the argument and why you want to ask for forgiveness. You have to be sincere about your apology.
- Own up to your mistake. There are always two sides in an argument and each one of you contributed to it.
- Write your apology and the reasons that created the problems. Analyze it. See what really went wrong and jot down what you think could be done to rectify the problems. You can even give this to the other party if you cannot bring yourself to ask for forgiveness personally.
- Practice what you are going to say until you are comfortable to say the words. You do not want to start your apology only to say the wrong things and start another argument.
- When you ask for forgiveness, stick to the actual problem only. Keep to the subject and say what needs to be said in a calm manner. There is no need for an emotional outburst and exaggeration. Do not blame anyone, just state the facts of the problem in question.
- There is no need to give reasons to your actions. Sincerely ask for forgiveness for what happened, and tell them you acknowledge your part in what happened.
- Ask for forgiveness when the other party has had time to calm down and willing to listen. There is no use apologizing at the height of the argument because the other party is not ready to listen.
- Let the other party know that you realize how they were hurt. Tell them also how you felt. Ask them what you can do to rectify the situation.
- Listen and accept what the other party has to say. Give them time to consider their own actions and wait for them to forgive you. There is no use bringing the matter up again.
- Even if the other party does not respond, remember that you have done your part and made the move to ask for forgiveness and leave it at that. Strive to do better and avoid the causes that brought about the problems.
Asking for forgiveness is a sign of strength. It should not be considered a weakness. It helps repair relationships, strengthens family bonds and relieves your heart and mind. The saying forgive and forget applies.